Motherhood is hard. As new moms or parents, you are or will be guilty of making mistakes. Some mistakes may be harder to realise and or accept. Have a read at five of the most common mistakes you make as a new mom.
1 – Listening to Tom, Dick, Harry AND Helen
We all have an Aunt Helen who swears that her preferred parenting style is the way, the truth and the light of parenthood. What may have worked twenty years ago may not be the methodology for you. As a parent, it’s not your job to please people who don’t have the responsibility of looking after your child. It may be tempting to try to keep everyone happy because the truth is that new moms need all the advice they can get. That doesn’t mean you should let other people’s opinions dictate your actions.
2 – Trying to Do Too Much Too Soon
The same way that your little bundle of poop needs to learn to crawl before they can walk – as moms, we need to be careful not to take on too much too soon. Get in the rhythm of being a mom and enjoy it while you can because they’ll be taller than you before you know it! Stop thinking that you must immediately be able to juggle work, being a partner and being a mom all at the same time. You’ll regain your balance in due time so be patient.
3 – Not Asking for Help
This point directly aligns with doing too much too soon. Babies and kids, in general, can be overwhelming. It’s easy to use the excuse of not wanting to look weak or wanting to put on a face of resilience when you need help. That’s why Aunt Helen, bless her, is always calling. The people around you are there to help you through it, whether it’s a shoulder to cry on because you haven’t slept in three days or a friend that will look after your little one while you take a much-deserved bath you can find help everywhere.
4 – Not Setting Boundaries
Everyone wants to see your newborn and, they want to see you. Cancelling plans or taking time to be with your family in this new chapter of your life is okay. No one has the right to visit you unannounced and, don’t be afraid of letting them know that, with kindness and compassion of course. When they do visit, make sure you’ve got a set of rules to give you peace of mind like washing their hands before touching the baby or letting them know that they can’t come to visit if they’ve been near anyone or are sick.
5 – Second-Guessing Yourself
Motherhood doesn’t come naturally for everyone, but you need to learn to trust your biological instincts. New parents are often told in different ways to ignore certain instincts in fear of “spoiling” the baby. There’s no such thing as spoiling a baby! We believe that Lou Lou Lapin moms know the best for their babies.
At the end of the day, motherhood and parenthood isn’t always smooth sailing. Common parenting mistakes can be easily avoided.
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